Sunday, January 23, 2011

Adoption

I have a very dear friend that she and her hubby are going to court tomorrow and their kids will be legally theirs, FINALLY.  They have had the kids for 2.5 years and I've watched them go through the foster system and now the adoption.  I am SO excited for them, I can't even express it.

It has taken me back to my own experience with Drew.  Drew's situation was a little different in that his birth parents asked my ex and I to adopt him and we had 7 weeks to get ready.  We were not prepared at all for this experience.  However, thanks to the help of family and some amazing friends, we did.  In those seven weeks we made a nursery, hired two attorneys (one in Wyoming and one in Texas), and hired the social worker.  We had our home study, the interview with the social worker and had some of our friends write letters of recommendation.  In fact, one of the letters was written by my friend that I mentioned earlier.

Drew's birth parents are a part of our lives and he understands, as well as a 6 year old can, that he has a mommy, daddy, birth mommy and birth daddy.  We talk to his birth parents and they have visited us.  They have given us such an amazing gift and I'm grateful to them every day!!  That little boy is my miracle, just like my friend's kids are her miracles.

Congrats again, Kimmy.  Love you tons!!

Sunday, January 16, 2011

Metamorphosis

 

When I was in college, I had to read The Metamorphosis by Franz Kafka for one of my English Lit classes. I even remember the teacher for that class.  I thought he was a tad bit eccentric, but hey, isn’t that what most English Prof’s are.  When I read it then, I strongly disliked that book.  All I could think of when I was reading it was that it was crazy that this person was changing into a giant insect.  I couldn’t get past that.

Now, jump forward a few decades and I’m starting to see it in a different light.  I think of myself and how I’m changing…and what is going to be the end result of that.  I’ve started looking at myself and the choices I make differently. Why do I think this or that, what has made me act this way or that way.  Do I like that about myself?  Why do I care about what others think??  I’ve always been so obsessed about the opinion of others that I’ve let it stifle me. 

I’m realizing that the only person that is hurting is me and why would I do that?  I want to be a positive example for my son and if I’m consistently worrying about the opinion of others, what is that going to do to my son?  How is the going to shape his life.

I’ve decided that I’m really excited about 2011 and the possibilities that it’s going to bring.  I’m ready to step out of my shell. Smile

Friday, January 7, 2011

Mindy...this is for you!

My buddy Mindy told me the other day that I have the longest "in-between posts" times.  So, I decided I would write a post especially for her.  This is the story of Drew's adventure to Montana....

Our story starts on Christmas Eve morning, EARLY...like at 3:15am early.  Drew's plane was scheduled to leave at 5:50am and his daddy wanted to meet us at the airport at 4:00am.  I had Drew sleep in the clothes he was going to wear so that he could sleep as long as possible.  My sis-in-law got me up at 3:15 because she was being the awesome person she was and taking us to the airport (which was a great think, DFW is a monster!!).  We get to the airport a little before 4 and there are more people than I thought there would be. 

Drew's dad shows up and then they go off to get their tickets and go through security.  So, I give my little guy a big hug and kiss and tell him to have tons of fun.

I knew that they should be landing in Montana around noon, so I called Dan's sister to check on them.  Their plane is circling the  Missoula airport because it is too foggy.  They circle for over an hour and then decide to land in Great Falls, MT.  Great Falls is about 3 hours away from Missoula.  The airline rents a bus and takes all the passengers to Missoula on this bus.

Drew thought it was a great adventure and he was having a blast, his dad, not so much!

They finally arrived at their destination at 7 pm that night....instead of the originally planned time of 1:30.  But, they made it safe and sound and that is all that matters!

That's it for now.  Drew is coming home tonight, so I hope his trip home is much smoother!

Take care,
Paulette

PS-Mindy...are you happy!  Love you!